Between Tradition and Ambition

You know how women in history has been struggling to achieve gender equality. We believe that what men can do, women can do. Thus, there is non-sense to discriminate against women. I have been brought up with a strong value of independence. I mean, my mom always stress it that girls have to be able to make their own living and stand on their own two feet. In my mind, I thought that means that girls (at least in my family) don't have to hold on those "Eastern things," like: get married before certain age, you only do this thing on this particular date that is believed to be a 'good day,' etc. Well, let's see.
I consider myself as a big dreamer. I dream with my eyes open, I dream while living my life. I always want freedom to do my own things. My parents who are kindly enough never said no to any of my requests. I don't know how my mom could cope with my "odd"-ness. Since I was a kid, I have always wanted to travel the world. Back then, I said I want to be a stewardess, or a tour guide. I know it's not like a big-shot lawyer or anything, my dream is quite simple: travel the world. I think I just have this "free-as-bird" in my DNA. Besides, my mom always always said to me: nothing is impossible. That saying is one of mottoes that I live by. I think this makes me to even dream the wildest dream possible.
On top of that, I think I'm a planner. I'm not stopping at being a dreamer, I have plans to make them come true. I mean I know that there will be some adjustments here and there along the road, but I drew the whole map already.
So, just recently I had a conversation with my mom about future stuffs. Things like career, and marriage. I told her that:
1. I don't want to marry before I'm financially secured.
2. My future husband also has to have a stability in money matter.
3. I don't see the point of marry at such a young age, just because they said so.
4. In my marriage life, I need someone who I can trust (fidelity) and can give me a moral support when I think I want to give up.
5. I don't want the relationship to be "clingy" or be a burden for both of us. I mean I wouldn't blame my guy if he couldn't make it to some of my events or things like that. I mean just don't cheat on me.
6. I hope both of us still as productive as when we were single. I don't want to get in a way, vice versa.
My mom doesn't agree on any of these tings! She says: well, you have to make sacrifices for your marriage, like you can't work all the time, also, it's okay to get married before the couples are financially ready... i think it'll be hard to find a guy like what you hope for. Very encouraging words, arent they? hahaha... Idk, I mean that's how I see things in life through a perspective of a carefree-just-turned-21-girl. I mean, maybe some of women aren't meant to get married...isn't it more girls than guys in the world? Oh wait, but we have to count for those who are into same-sex relationships. Idk.haha.. Maybe right now, God is preparing someone somewhere to be my guy, or maybe overtime He might change my way of thinking, or maybe it's between these two options. You never know. I'm just 21, I'm gonna do my own things, hoping to get done with my "To-Do-List," if there's a guy cross my path, then AT THAT TIME we shall see... in the meantime, I'm getting back to my own business.

Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Matt 6: 27, 33-34